Expectations: I'm someone who tries to please everybody. This results in much head-meltage for me. If I could offer one piece of advice to anyone planning their wedding, it would be "choose your battles wisely." For there will be battles. Everyone has an opinion about what your wedding should entail. Everyone feels justified in voicing their opinion. It doesn't matter if they are contributing financially or not, everyone would feel like their wishes should be respected. I had a really hard time accepting the fact that our wedding wasn't just about us. It was also about our family. There were some things worth fighting over (not having heart-shaped whisks as our wedding favour) and some things that weren't (not having any flowers.) I'm glad that we stood our ground on the things that felt most important to use, but I'm also glad that we were able to compromise on some issues and make others happy. In the end, no one resent our decisions (at least, I hope not) and we still had the wedding we wanted to have.
Sheesh, look at me all preachy preachy. Moving on to a more humorous topic:
Expressions, facial: (yes, another 'e' - but at least I didn't put this under 'x' and make it 'xpressions' ... you would have permission to kick me in the shin if I did that.) We are goofy people. I'm so glad that Angella was able to capture it in the photos she took. I'm also glad that others were able to catch us looking a bit silly during the reception because these are the photos that we love the most. Yes, it's nice to have lovely wedding photos. It's also great to have the silly ones; they feel more genuine.
Flowers: Right, so I will be the first to admit that I may have gone a little crazy. I was really annoyed at my aunt for the dahlias vs mums debate. Everyone told me that it didn't matter and I wouldn't even care on the actual day but honestly, I didn't really believe them. But guess what? I didn't get the flowers I wanted and I didn't give a shit. The bouquets looked fine. They were nothing like what I ordered and I didn't care. This concept blows my mind. I knew that there was a good possibility that I wouldn't get the flowers I wanted but I thought it would bother me a lot more than it did. In the end, the flowers looked great, my aunt felt included and we spent a ridiculously small amount on our wedding flowers (cost was my only argument against having flowers.)
Garter Toss: Didn't do it. Didn't toss a bouquet either. Maybe I'm a prude, but I always find the garter thing really awkward to watch. We'd scrapped so any other traditional wedding things that no-one even noticed that we didn't do the various tosses. Or if they did notice they didn't say anything.
Hair: I have wanted to chop my hair off for so long but I kept it long for the wedding. I wanted to be able to put it up with no fussy bits hanging in my face. It looks really simple and plain but there was actually about 100 bobby pins and a bottle of hairspray in it. It was not fun to undo but it didn't move at all for the entire day so I'm not complaining.
Honeymoon: Ireland. On hold until next spring because of our work schedules.
to be continued ...