Back in October I wrote about why I need to find a new doctor. Receiving your supportive comments lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. Unfortunately, it also quelled the urgency of my search. I did attempt to find a new doctor but my efforts were both fruitless and halfhearted. I wasn't worrying about the situation anymore so it was very easy to push it to the back of my mind and forget about it.
I went to a walk-in clinic a few months ago when I was having the skin issues and the doctor who treated me was fabulous. She is not, unfortunately, accepting new patients but she did give me a refill prescription for my birth control. I have two months left until I enter the danger zone. Unless I want to end up with a baby (words can not express how deeply I DO NOT WANT a baby right now,) I need to find a new doctor.
My friends have been little help as they either a: hate their doctor but don't want to bother with finding a new one, b: don't have a doctor and only frequent walk-in clinics or c: have a doctor whose office is not easily accessible to me. I'm operating under the assumption that I should be able to find a doctor within easy travel distance of either my home or office. Silly me.
British Columbia has a website that lists physicians who are currently accepting new patients. You enter your search parameters (city, preferred gender, languages spoken, etc) and you are given the contact information of all the physicians that match your criteria and are accepting new patients. It's an extremely helpful tool but it's also really disheartening when you find out that there are six female doctors currently accepting patients and none of the six are in the city where you live or close to your office (note to website: users should be able to specify that they are searching for doctors in downtown Vancouver, not just Vancouver.)
So now I'm wondering if I'm pushing the "my doctor must be female!" thing too far. Do you require that your doctor be the same gender as you are? Are you comfortable with a doctor who isn't? My issue isn't with trust, it's with comfort. Somehow I can't see myself being as comfortable talking about lady bits with someone who does not possess them. It's like taking your car to a mechanic who doesn't own a car. Sure he's studied cars, he's looked at pictures of cars, he's seen cars in real life, he's driven cars - the thing is, he doesn't own a car. He never will own a car. He doesn't know what owning a car feels like. Do you trust your car to this mechanic?