Saturday, 4 October 2008

Carbon's Anniversary The Parting Of The Sensory - 2

Dear Shawn,

Happy 2 Monthiversary. Life is finally returning to normal (whatever that is) at home. The wedding feels like it was ages ago. People keep asking us how married life is. I feel like such a failure when I tell them it's the same. I feel like I'm supposed to say it's fabulous or it's amazing or it's better than I ever thought it could be. Don't get me wrong - being married to you is awesome. It's also the same. There are good things and bad things and at the end of the day the good outweighs the bad and I'm happy. Being married is challenging but (so far) no more challenging that just being in a relationship with you was. I'm happy that I found out about the majority of your quirks before we got married. The sock thing would have been a shock to my system if I was just finding out about it now. I honestly don't understand why you can't put your socks in the laundry basket every night but you don't understand why I love bands like the Arctic Monkeys and the Kooks so hey, we're even. I guess that's a big part of choosing to be together - not understanding wtf the other person is doing but loving them despite it.

We made our first grown-up purchase a few weeks ago. Ok, our condo was our first grown-up purchase but this was a close second. We bought a new kitchen table and couch. When we first started looking, we were looking at temporary-quality furniture. I'm glad we decided to go with the higher quality stuff. It makes me happy to think that we own furniture that will come with us when we move. If we can ever afford to move again. We don't actually have our kitchen table yet but I'm hoping it will show up before Thanksgiving.

This last month has been a bit tense for us. Purchasing the table made us both a bit cranky (talk about a lesson in compromise - our taste in furniture could not be further apart. Everything you liked was metal and glass and everything I liked was wooden and too "old looking.") We're also having a bit of difficulty planning our honeymoon (I still want to go to Ireland, you want to combine our honeymoon with your friend's wedding in Mexico. Seriously. Am I the only one who thinks that it's not a honeymoon if it includes family members?) Life is good though, even though you've made my head melt multiples times. You've also made my heart melt multiple times so I'd say we're coming out on top.

Love you, dude.

PS: Ireland is so much better than Mexico for a multitude of reasons, including - but not limited to - the beer and leprechauns. Think about it.


  1. I'm very glad you wrote this. September was a tough month all round, relationships included. It's nice to know that we're not the only ones putting some serious work into this lifelong partnership crap.

  2. Didn't you two just go to Mexico?

    Maybe you should go to fly from Mexico (after the wedding) to Ireland. Now that's combining the two.

  3. dude. ireland is SO better. guinness factory AND jameson distillery, ftw.

  4. I'm coming up on my 5-month-aversary and I found a great quote recently on someone's blog: "Being married is the same, only we eat on new dishes and we have softer sheets." I thought it was a humorous angle on the truth. For those of us that lived together before marriage, things aren't all that different.

  5. I randomly found your blog through the comments section on Nothing But Bonfires (Dan Mangan post) then I started reading some of your wedding posts and I read this: "I feel like such a failure when I tell them it's the same." And I lauuuughed and I's so true! And it is the same, and people who are all, "oh my god, you have no idea, it's an inexplicable feeling" are full of it!!